My dictionary defines sodomy as:

1: copulation with a member of the same sex or an animal

2: noncoital and esp. anal or oral copulation with a member of the opposite sex.

In the following I’m talking about laws in the U.S., not other countries. I found the following quote at this URL: http://www.sodomylaws.org/strategies.htm

From the above URL I quote:
“Solicitation for Sodomy

Quite often, arrests are not made for sodomy, but for soliciting sodomy—asking someone to perform sodomy—even in the confines of a private conversation—is itself a crime, and often a felony. Arrests for solicitation are common in Kansas, Missouri, Virginia, and North Carolina, among other states.

And even in states where sodomy is legal, such as Georgia, solicitation to engage in sodomy may still be a crime for which local police and prosecutors say they will arrest people and charge people.”

Apparently many states have laws that forbid sodomy, but go largely unenforced. From what I’ve read, many of these states are in the south, where the ‘bible belt’ religious conservatives have influenced the legislatures to not repeal those laws.

So, Reese’s just recommending a BJ could end up with him in jail as a felon. IMHO, it’s not fair to sexually liberated straights _or_ gays, but unfortunately that’s still the reality. If Reese were to go back to his home state of Florida, it might be wise to check the Florida laws before he goes.

So please don’t shoot the messenger. I don’t agree with these laws, but I wouldn’t want to see anyone fall victim to them. And people _do_ fall victim. I knew a guy who had daughters in high school, and met his daughter’s girlfriend. They fell in love, and eventually got married and had a baby. But because at first she was several mionths under eighteen, her parents tricked her into admitting that she was fooling around with him. He ended up in jail, got convicted of ‘illegal sexual intercourse’ (even though it was totally consensual), and was then a ‘sexual predator’ who had to report to the local authorities whenever he moved to another locality. I thought that what the laws did to him was extremely unfair, but there wasn’t much that he could do. Like they say, Shit happens. Life’s often not fair. But it shouldn’t be because of some stupid law.

Take the party that Vix & I attended this weekend, for instance: There were a little over 100 guests representing a broad range of sexual orientations – straight, gay, lesbian, bisexual, bi-curious, transgendered, etc – all of them celebrating rather than concealing their sensuality.

The ‘straight’ men took no issue in seeing two men kissing (although the male bar staff seemed to have a problem with it, which I feel was a bit biased since they cheered whenever two women sucked face). For the party guests, however, there was nothing unusual about this behaviour. Even if it wasn’t their particular ‘cup of tea’, an atmosphere of acceptance pervaded the proceedings.

Everyone could be totally comfortable with who they were without the need to hide behind some facade they would have to project in less tolerant environs. Although it was purely a social event, if you fancied someone (or two), you merely had to ask if they’d like to join you in your room later on. And, of course, everyone was well aware that they simply had to say ‘no’ if they weren’t interested. No games, no pretence.

I’m well aware that the world at large doesn’t work that way, and I’m most thankful for the openness and understanding of the community in which I dwell. Perhaps, one day, the sexual mores of the public at large will go through a sea change and we can all feel the freedom to just be ourselves. Until then, I’m most happy in my little world…

Cheers,
~Reese! :~)

Suppose I’m gay and I haven’t ‘come out of the closet’ yet, and I don’t want people knowing that I’m gay. I have to confront this issue of an “impromptu blowjobs become acceptable as the standard custom of greeting.” Since I’m gay, I’m not attracted to women, and if a woman touches me I would probably show my displeasure, so I avoid this custom. Then other people see that I don’t participate, and assume that I’m gay. Or if I do participate, then people see that I’m obviously not enjoying this custom, and again assume that I’m gay. In either case, I’ve been outed by this custom. So I lose either way!

I’ll comment further on some legal aspects but I have to do a bit of research to find out if what I’m saying is still true.